Handle intimidating people
Not everyone who acts in the following manners may be deliberately trying to control you. Regardless, it’s important to recognize these behaviors in situations where your rights, interests and safety are at stake. Home Court and Time Dominance An aggressive and controlling person may insist on you meeting and interacting in a physical space where he or she can exercise more dominance and control.
This can be the aggressor’s office, home, car, or other spaces where she feels ownership and familiarity (and where you lack them).
Questions are more likely answered with greater care and detail. Strength and Intimidation in Numbers Some aggressors like to dominate a situation by having a number of associates or friends present to support her or his position.
In every workplace, you will have difficult coworkers.
Examples can include any variety of comments ranging from your appearance, to your older model smart phone, to your background and credentials, to the fact that you walked in two minutes late and out of breath.
By making you look bad, and getting you to feel bad, the aggressor hopes to impose psychological superiority over you. Constantly Judge and Criticize You to Make You Feel Inadequate Distinct from the previous behavior where negative humor is used as a cover, here the aggressor outright picks on you.
The aggressive voice is frequently combined with strong body language such as standing or excited gestures to increase impact. Losing Patience and/or Threatening to Walkout Similar to raising one’s voice, losing patience and threatening to walk out are classic power play tactics to pressure a recipient to conform and give in.
The more attached (especially emotionally) the recipient is to the situation, the more likely this type of coercion can succeed. Negative Humor Designed to Poke at Your Weaknesses and Disempower You Some aggressors like to make critical remarks, often disguised as humor, to make you seem inferior and less secure.
By being extra and sometimes unnecessarily formal, the aggressor tries to impress and intimidate psychologically, in order to extract advantages and concessions. Physically Stand or Sit Uncomfortably Close To You to Intimidate/ Physically Using Height Advantage to Tower Over You and Intimidate Some aggressors use their physical size and/or height to violate your physical space and intimidate.